We live in a culture that is highly sexualized, a couple of generations ago young people were exposed to porn for the first time in high school, nowadays children are exposed to porn while they are in elementary school. Many of these children are not seeking to view porn but end up on these sites unintentionally via the internet. Today sex is pushed on people in all kinds of contexts that it was never created for. You can’t drive home from work without being exposed to billboards with messages like: “Life is short, have an affair.”
Another interesting fact is that inside the context that sex was created for (marriage) sex is no longer prioritized highly. Every book that I’ve read about marriage points out how important sex is for a marriage to be healthy and strong. “Sex is the glue that will keep you together” or “Having sex on a regular basis will protect your marriage from affairs” are examples of quotes that you will find in books about marriage. Still, in today’s culture sex isn’t a high priority in many marriages.
I read a sex survey in a popular Women’s magazine where the majority of the couples ages 30-45 said that they have sex twice a month on average. These couples also said that they feel that twice a month is often enough for them to have sex during this stage in life. I’ve read a few different books about marriage and what they all have in common is that they recommend that married couples have sex a minimum of 2-3 days per week to keep the marriage healthy and strong.
Isn’t it quite interesting how in marriage our culture is letting sex die while in places that sex shouldn’t be happening, for example in front of the eyes of elementary school kids, it’s happening? Sex is a powerful thing that can be used for good or for evil. Sex is also a powerful tool to hurt people with. Our spiritual enemy, Satan, is always looking for ways to infiltrate our sex lives and make this area of our lives twisted. If we want to have healthy, happy and thriving lives we need clear boundaries for how we use sex in our lives. Sex without any boundaries will open the door to a lot of pain, shame and regret in our lives.
Pastor Rich Wilkerson from Vous Church in Miami talks about sex in this sermon. Rich Wilkerson walks us through why sex was created by God. He points out that God created sex for three specific purposes; procreation, pleasure and protection.