Tuesday, December 1, 2015
Self Love Gives You Freedom
When we don't love ourselves life can get really hard. We all know that it's bad to be selfish and sometimes we think that we are selfish if we love ourselves, but it's quite the opposite. How we treat others will always be connected to how we treat and view ourselves. The better we get at loving ourselves the better we will also get at loving others. Every single relationship we have will be affected by the relationship we have with ourselves. Every time you grow yourself it will have a direct impact on every relationship in your life. You can't change other people, but you can change yourself.
One way that not loving ourselves can make us selfish is that we become obsessed with what other people say or think about us. We spend a lot of time thinking about these things. When we don't get the love we need from ourselves we become more needy with others, we develop a need for constant validation from others. We also become more easily angered and offended when we don't love ourselves. What others say about us becomes more important than it should be, so when others don't like something about us we get offended. When we learn to love ourselves we free up our minds to focus on other things. We know that we are good the way we are and understand that how others view us does not define us.
I think that one of the keys to a more loving society is each one us learning to first give ourselves the love and respect we need. Once we have learned to love ourselves our focus will naturally become less about me and more about others.