Wednesday, October 12, 2016
Francis and Lisa Chan have written a book about marriage called You and Me Forever. In this video Francis and Lisa talk about the chapter about humility. We are all prideful by nature, we all have a desire to have things our own way. Our pride can cause a lot of problems in marriage because when we are fighting to have things our own way, to be right and to win, it will lead to a lot of conflict. Pride gives life to bitterness, anger, arrogance and a desire for revenge in us.
The opposite of pride is humility. Humility will not come naturally for us, we have to make the choice to walk in humility. When we are humble we will consider other peoples' needs more important than our own. When you have two people in a marriage who are humble, who choose to consider the other person more important than themselves, you get a very beautiful relationship. It's natural for us to want to win and have things our own way but when we choose to walk in humility it changes everything in our marriage.
Francis Chan mentions that most of us are competitive people, but we can choose to use our competitiveness toward something good. Instead of fighting to be right we can compete in trying to outlove and outserve one another. When we stop fighting to win and rather try to beat each other at loving and serving the other person our marriage will thrive. Our goal in marriage should be to try to outdo one another in love. When our aim is to keep forgiving, loving and serving each other in marriage our relationship will be happy and healthy.